Margo Batsie, MCEDV's Justice Systems Coordinator, was interviewed for a WLBZ news story on the recent statewide implementation of the ODARA. To view the story, click here or see below.
That belief is supported by a system of personal and cultural experiences and attitudes. While changing belief systems and ending abusive behaviors is difficult, it is not impossible.
Change is a long-term process. It requires a sincere desire to change on the part of the abusive person, and requires the community to insist upon accountability. Change doesn’t happen overnight, and batterers who claim to have changed their ways in a short period of time should be regarded with suspicion, since such manipulation is often a tactic used by abusers.
This is one of many myths about about abuse that abound in our culture. Domestic violence is not caused by a person being angry and out of control. Similarly, substance abuse treatment or therapy will not address battering behaviors, either. An abusive person may also have substance abuse or mental health disorders that exacerbate their abusive behaviors—indeed, many do—but the battering behaviors are not caused by the substance abuse or mental health issues. While addressing co-occuring issues is one piece of creating a safe future, it is vital that we recognize that the only way to address and change battering behaviors is to deal directly with the belief systems that cause them.
Batterers who truly wish to change should seek help through a certified Batterer’s Intervention Program. These 48-week programs, licensed through the Maine Department of Corrections, are designed to challenge the belief systems that support abusive behaviors, and to provide needed accountability to actually change behavior.
All BIPS work closely with their local domestic violence resource centers to maintain the highest standards for victim safety and offender accountability. To find out about the Batterer’s Intervention Program nearest you, visit the Maine Department of Corrections’ website.
It is very tempting to take the side of the perpetrator. All the perpetrator asks is that the bystander do nothing. The perpetrator appeals to the universal desire to see, hear, and speak no evil. The victim, on the contrary asks the bystander to share the burden of pain. The victim demands action, engagement, and remembering...In order to escape accountability for the crime, the perpetrator does everything in their power to promote forgetting. If secrecy fails, the perpetrator attacks the reliability of the victim. If they cannot silence the victim absolutely, he tries to make sure that no one listens... the more powerful the perpetrator, the greater is the prerogative to name and define reality, and the more completely his arguments prevail.